About handling disagreements.

There will be always a disagreement between different people. And this is fundamental to us. We see the things differently; we see the priority differently and so on.

How can we shift from the things we disagree to the things that are the most important to us?

This is a core question in the art of decision making.

Many people ask me how to proceed when a big argument comes up?

And I don’t like this question so much, because you should have already seen where the discussion is leading to.

You should have already discussed the minor disagreement and shift the discussions on the things you, your partner, your co-worker or your business partner want to do.

If you end up with a big conflict, it is a little too late to shift the focus. In this stage, you need to focus on damage control and compromises.

Sometimes it is not possible and then you need to decide if you want to separate or you will need to negotiate a different relationship.

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